When working with clients (and even with myself), I find one of the biggest blockages to successfully achieving our goals is that we do not truly believe we deserve them.
Many of us seem to suffer from what I like to call, Who Do You Think You Are Syndrome.
For example, you say, “I want financial freedom” or “I want to be a millionaire.” But then you start thinking:
“Who do you think you are? You’re no Bill Gates!”
“Who do you think you are? You’re not smart, creative, well connected, etc. enough to become a millionaire.”
“Who do you think you are? Your family never had money.”
You want to lose some weight, but then those thoughts creep in:
“Who do you think you are? You’ve always been overweight.”
“Who do you think you are? Your whole family is fat.”
“Who do you think you are? You can’t exercise 3 days a week.”
Somewhere though our life we have created a belief that we don’t deserve to be wealthy, healthy, loved, happy, have a job we enjoy, and so on. So we dream big, but never achieve that dream because after all we don’t deserve it (or so we tell ourselves).
The best way I have found to start dissolving this belief is with a little exercise designed to remind us we are deserving of EVERYTHING we desire. Here’s how it works:
Every day for the next 2 weeks (or longer) set a timer for 3 minutes. During that 3 minute period write down everything you think you deserve, from the littlest molecule of oxygen to $100,000,000. Write down anything that pops into your head, don’t think about it and do not dismiss it. It came to you for a reason. You may find this exercise a little tough the first few days, especially if you have a significant case of Who Do You Think You Are Syndrome, but I assure you it will get easier each day.
To help you get started here are a few ideas:
- I deserve to be wealthy.
- I deserve to be loved.
- I deserve to live in a safe neighborhood.
- I deserve healthy food.
- I deserve the time to take care of myself
- I deserve to be happy.
- I deserve a Ferrari.
- I deserve respect.
- I deserve to treat others as I want to be treated.
- I deserve career I love.
Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.