For many of us, having more money is one of our goals. Perhaps we want to earn more money, increase our financial freedom, create a source of passive income, or become a multimillionaire. But, despite our best efforts we struggle to achieve our dreams of wealth and security.
As we go through life we develop beliefs and attitudes about money that run counter to our intentions to attract more:
- Rich people are “bad”.
- Money isn’t spiritual.
- Money is the root of all evil.
- Money changes people.
- Money doesn’t bring happiness.
We have a love/hate relationship with money. We love it because it makes us feel happy, helps us care for our families, and pays our bills, but it also brings us stress and feelings of lack, envy, and greed.
However, in order to attract the money we want to improve our lives (and the lives of those around us) we MUST learn to love and respect money. Take a few moments to consider how much kindness and respect you give your money. For example:
- Do you have money wadded up in the bottom of your purse/briefcase, or is your money neatly sorted in your wallet?
- Do you “blame” money for your problems? “No matter what I do I never have enough money!”
- Do you carelessly waste money on things you do not need or do you enjoy saving up for that special item?
- Do you have a financial plan or do you stash your money here, there, and everywhere?
For years, I treated my money with total disrespect. I kept extra cash lying around the house or stashed in a desk drawer, I tossed spare change on the seat of my car, I bought what ever I wanted whenever I wanted it, and I made no attempts to wisely invest a portion of my income.
It wasn’t until I started “taking care” of my money that my finances started to shift. Now, I keep spare cash locked in a safe, I neatly tuck my spare change into a change pouch, I follow (mostly) a budget, and I set up an auto debit from my checking account to fund my IRA. I take time each day to show my money love, respect, and gratitude. It has taken time, patience, and dedication but I am seeing an increase in my finances as well as in opportunities and creative ideas to help me make more.
If reaching your financial goals is a bit of a challenge for you, take some time to consider if you are treating your money the way you want money to treat you. Ask yourself,
“If I treated my friends/family the way I treat my money, how many fulfilling relationships would I have?”
If the answer is not many, then try this exercise to help you regain a positive, loving relationship with your finances:
Every day for the next month, write down at least 10 reasons you LOVE money. Consider things like: money makes me happy, money helps me care for my family, money bought me a new car, money supports me in all ways, giving money to help others brings me joy, money is a physical representation of positive energies, etc…
This can be a powerful method to begin to rebuild a strong, healthy relationship with your finances.