So now you have written and revised your goal and listed why you want to achieve that goal. What is next?
This week we are going to examine what has happened in the past to prevent you from reaching your goal.
If you have been trying to reach your goal with little or no progress there may be something (or things) blocking your way. Have you tried in the past and failed? Why did you fail? What has been getting in the way of you reaching your dream. For many of us these are the “excuses”:
- I don’t have enough time.
- My spouse won’t let me.
- I don’t have the money or connections.
- I don’t know how to reach my goal.
- I always fail.
- I’m not good enough/smart enough.
- I’m lazy.
In step 1 of this exercise make a list of every “excuse” you can think of as to why you have yet to reach your goal. Don’t judge what you write down simply make the list.
Once you have your list it is time for step 2. In this step write down 1 or 2 reasons why you believe or use this excuse.
For example, if your goal is to lose weight but your excuse is you don’t have the time to exercise write down why you think you don’t have time. Perhaps you work long days or maybe family obligations get in your way.
For step 3, list 2-3 things you can do to counteract your excuses.
Using the previous example, if you lack the time to exercise, consider spending less time watching TV or exercise while watching, take a walk during your lunch break rather than eating at your desk, or include the whole family in playtime games like tag, Twister or bike riding.
Step 4 is optional but if you have had experiences in the past that have impeded your progress write down what you can learn from these “failures.”
If you have had trouble losing weight in the past because you could not stick to a diet plan think about what you can learn from that experience. Maybe the diet was too restrictive, perhaps you need to meet with a nutritionist for advice on what to eat, or maybe your goal was not realistic.
The purpose of this exercise is NOT to dwell on the past or to point out negatives but to learn from them and use that knowledge to propel you to your goal. It is difficult to be successful of you cannot identify and address the barriers along your journey. BE AWARE NOT CRITICAL.
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Good luck with the exercise and we’ll talk next week!